Today at Holy Mass we hear Jesus in the Gospel of St John call us his friend…..To have a true friend is a gift…Someone who knows you and loves you as you are, with all your flaws….This is rare indeed to have such a friend….When I was young I had tons of “friends”….But as I got older I soon found out who my true friends were….And those are the people we must stay close too….Jesus tells us today…..”No one has greater love than this, to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. You are my friends if you do what I command you. I no longer call you slaves, because a slave does not know what his master is doing. I have called you friends, because I have told you everything I have heard from my Father”….What does it mean to be Jesus’ friend? - Do you view him in this way?…….Because he is our friend, we must learn to trust him explicitly - Even if what he says “does not make sense” - What do I mean by that? - Even if the Gospel message does not comport to the world’s message - Even if the Gospel message is hard - Even if the Gospel message requires sacrifice…We must still trust in Jesus - Why? - Because he is our true friend!……No one is closer to us than he is and every he says to us through Scripture and the Church he found is in our best interest - Do you believe that?!?….Because if you do, you will bend your will until it breaks!…..Why? - Because your best friend told you too!
“It was not you who chose me, but I who chose you and appointed you to go and bear fruit that will remain”
When everything is going well in life most people will find that all your “friends” are close to you - But let something go wrong - Seriously wrong…You get into financial trouble - You lose your job - You get sick and need assistance…Its at those moments that our true friends emerge - How do we know that these people who stick by us in difficult times are our friends? - Because they sacrifice for us…Whether its their time - Whether its helping us financially - They give of themselves for us by “going out of their way” - And this is how we know they are our true friends…Sadly as you get older you realize few people will do that for you and when you find those who do - Never let those people go!……When I was forty years old one of my high school friends found himself drinking way too much…He had chronic back problems and began drowning his pain with vodka….He would come to my family home drunk out of his mind in the morning - It was a “silent cry” for help…..Both my father and I knew he was drunk….One day, he called me and asked to drive him to a rehabilitation center three hours away - Which I did…..The drive was messy - The effects of his alcoholism were very tangible - He was very close to death…..So I drove him to the rehabilitation center where he stayed for a few months…..From that point forward he gained control of his life again and saved his marriage……I mention this because helping my friend was not something I “wanted to do” but I did it anyway…Why? - Because he was my friend…Helping him “cost” me something - But I did it anyway - Why? - Because he is my friend…And when you do things for people like that - Not only do they remember it - But they know you are a follower of Jesus Christ - Because you put the Gospel into action!…..As Catholics, no one will believe us as far as what we “claim” to believe if we do not sacrifice for others - If our actions do not mirror the Gospel…..The “proof” that we love God is that we love others….Jesus tells us in today’s Gospel….”This I command you: love one another” - Its easy to say the word “love” but its another thing altogether to live out what love truly is….To love is to sacrifice self for others and that sacrifice can come in the form of a heavy personal cost!…This is what Jesus did for all of humanity - He gave his life for us on the Cross…This is what a husband does for his wife and children - This is how they know his love for them is real - And this is how the world will know we are Catholic - In the “cost” we are willing to pay for others…..Mother Teresa would always say - “For love to be real it must hurt” - That means it costs us dearly! - This is how we show the world we are Catholics - We “pay the cost” of love and we “pay” it with joy in our heart!
“I call you my friends, says the Lord, for I have made known to you all that the Father has told me”
Today at Mass Jesus calls us his friend - What kind of friend are you to him?……Do you “stick with him” no matter what?….Do you trust him?…….Are you only “friends” with Jesus when things are going smoothly?……Jesus stands with us when everyone else walks away - That is the kind of friend he is - And trust me - That “kind of friend” is rare!……JMJ